Such a good article and I learnt a lot from it - thank you! Just wanted to add that you can put off facing the trauma but it will always come back. It makes me want to be kinder because we are all going through it, processing it at different stages and in different ways.
SilkP - yes, we all need to learn to deal with the hard stuff. It's something I'm trying to teach my son these days!
I've noticed that my own son is more sensitive and less resilient than his sisters. It's always been this way although I hope I give them the same amount of encouragement/advice/support etc.. and find he needs more of all that. I have a feeling this is not going to change as they get older.
the trauma of separation is an interesting concept to me. I think I'll buy the book. I think I've spent a lot of time trying to drive around trauma. It does accumulate, doesn't it?
SilkP - thank you so much for sharing that. I've found the same, and I've noticed my son has greater depth of emotion - like me. It's a blessing and a curse depending on the emotion. Some people seem to have much less variation in their moods.Stephen - we all do don't we? Even adults don't embrace drama, avoidance by any means is almost a sane approach. But as you say, it accumulates and then TSHTF.
Funny thing to 'lean in' to, but I guess that's the only way to get on with it. A not very cheery, but oddly comforting article.
Shelley - I, too, found it oddly comforting. Tis life isn't it?
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